December 8, 2019

In this picture, my son is taking time to observe and reflect. He ended up sitting and sketching scenes from our backyard's landscape.

How do we get so busy? Why do we feel compelled and obligated to "do more" in spite of our body's begging us to stop, sit or lay down f...

October 21, 2019

We live in perfectionism when we have an interpretation that we need to be living high, often unattainable, standards.  Standards are rules we live by that are often unexamined and adopted unconsciously.

In order to break perfectionism, the first step is to identify sta...

September 11, 2019

I love to learn. I love to learn new insights into human behavior, into what makes humans human, and what creates healthy relationships with self, with others and the connection to something that is beyond human.

Carl Jung spoke of the collective unconscious.

I interpret...

September 9, 2019

In the previous post, I mentioned some tips to break habits of anxiety and unhealthy coping. It is often easier when we have a coach or accountability partner. It helps us get to where we want to go a little bit faster and with more ease. It is comfortable for so many...

September 9, 2019

When our body tenses up, or our heart rate increases and we feel anxious, afraid or have other unpleasant emotions in the form of body sensations that arise, we create a story with that tension.

We may be told to calm down, relax, don't worry so much or to take som...

September 8, 2019

Over the past year or so, members of my gym have had a growing interest in Whoop, a device with an app that helps with recovery, athletic performance and sleep. One of the measurements this device evaluates is Heart Rate Variability or HRV. 

I teach, coach & practice bo...

June 15, 2017

In order to give that presentation from a centered place; to play the best in a tournament; perform that solo with ease; or deal with screaming children, a certain letting go is required. Yet letting go of self-limiting barriers is easier said than done. Why is this?


June 13, 2017

I was recently asked to lead a conversation with adolescent girls on maintaining a positive body image. In order to maintain a positive image, building resilience and dignity is something that begins in how we hold ourselves. How we appear externally comes from how we...

February 4, 2017

Energy follows attention. Let's start there. Think about someone who is known for being late or is known for always being in crises. This happens because the energy of each person is focused on a variation of the story of “not enough time” or “I am so busy” & “there's...

February 2, 2017

1. “New England is cold in the winter.”

2. “Cold weather invigorates me making me feel ambitious!”

3. “Cold weather bums me out and makes me want to move south.”

4. “The political climate in February 2017 is cold and hopeless”.

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